It’s a new year and I’m really not trying to be the same me when it’s all said and done. At the end of 2018, I was thinking of some ridiculously large goals to set. Some were scary and others seemed like natural progressive steps for my life, but all were large in their own right. Looking at these goals, my heart whispered, “why not?,” while my brain eloquently shouted, “But Girl how?”
Everybody dreams, but not everybody lives to see the day they become their own dream.
Honestly, I’m not sure how to make my big goals into reality. I just know I believe I can. Not because 2019 is “oh so amazing” but because –to be frank– I’m feeling myself. I’ve tried things that I undersold myself on and I refuse to sell myself short any longer. I just need a rule book for black girls with massive sized dreams. Like how convenient would that be?
Google searched and found nothing.
Then I saw it! The pale blue background with a beautiful brown woman gracing the cover. It was Becoming by Michelle Obama. I bought my copy and immediately felt inspired, solely from having access to her story. Like they just let you buy the cheat codes to life for $35.
And that’s when it happened. My epiphany.
There has to be tons of books about Black women, who have overcome insurmountable odds to become more than they could have ever dreamed. Not directly in relation to race or sex or motherhood or any other thing that can qualify a woman’s greatness. But that she is powerful because she willed herself to be. She wanted to see a life for herself, so she made one — in spite of. Those were the stories I desperately needed to hear.
So again, I searched.
There had to be a list of memoirs by Black Women. Had To Be! Right? Yet, my search was hugely disappointing. There are lists, of course. Several, actually. And they literally have the same five books on them with others that don’t exactly fit the script. So, I scraped the internet — like seriously SCRAPED– and I found my first 6 books for my year of Black Girl Bossing.
- Becoming by Michelle Obama
- The Last Black Unicorn by Tiffany Haddish
- The Misadventures of the Awkward Black Girl by Issa Rae
- We’re Going to Need More Wine by Gabrielle Union
- Around the Way Girl by Taraji P. Henson
- Try Not to Stare, This is Just My Face by Gabourey Sidibe
My goal is simple, I want to read a book a month. I really just need to be inspired to believe I can do the unthinkable. And I want to learn from other women, like me, who can help me weave their life lessons into my own story. Dassit. I’m started with these six because they were really hard to come by and although I have some other books that I’m considering, I’d love to hear your thoughts too.
My disclaimer: I don’t read. Like really I don’t read very much at all. On top of that I have three children, a husband, several jobs and ya know– stuff. But I need y’all to hold me accountable. I want to be great, so let’s be great together.